Which part of you is talking
Most conflict isn't about the subject at hand. It's about which part of us shows up to have the conversation, Parent, Adult, or Child, and whether we notice in time to choose differently.
Resources for you
A collection of practical guides, reflections and tools to help you understand yourself, your relationships and the patterns you might find yourself repeating.
Some are designed to support the work we do in therapy. Others are simply things I've found useful in my own practice and wanted to make available.
TA Tools
Guides and interactive tools drawn directly from Transactional Analysis. An ongoing collection, growing as each new piece is ready.
Self-Help Guides
Practical guides for things that come up between sessions, whatever the underlying approach.
Anxiety & regulation
Breathing for Calm
Four evidence-based techniques, including cyclic sighing and box breathing, to settle your nervous system in the moment and over time.
Read more Panic & crisisSupporting Yourself Through Panic
A few simple tools to have to hand when panic feels like too much, including grounding techniques and further reading.
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Relationships
Coming soon
Understanding Your Patterns
A guide to recognising the relational patterns that show up in your relationships, what they might be telling you, and how to understand them.
Self-care
Coming soon
Burnout Recovery Toolkit
Practical exercises and reflections to support recovery from burnout, covering rest, boundaries, identity, and reconnecting with what matters to you.
Reflections
Short pieces on Transactional Analysis concepts and how they show up in everyday life. More of these live on Instagram.
Boundaries don't push people away
They make room for real contact. A boundary held clearly, without punishment attached, tends to bring people closer rather than further off.
Insight alone doesn't create change
What it creates is space, room to notice when you're reacting instead of responding, and to try something different even if it feels unfamiliar.
The voice that says you're not doing enough
It rarely started as your own voice. Part of the work is finding out where it came from, and deciding how much say it still gets.
What your first session looks like
A short guide for each way of working with me, so you know roughly what to expect before you book.
Individual
Coming soon
Your First Session, Individual
What to expect from a first individual therapy session, how we'll spend the time, and what you don't need to prepare in advance.
Couples & Relationships
Coming soon
Your First Session, Couples & Relationships
What a first session looks like when you come as a couple or family, and how we start finding a shared way in.
Supervision
Coming soon
Your First Session, Supervision
What to expect from an initial supervision session, whether you're a trainee, newly qualified, or established.
Want to explore these themes in therapy?
These resources work best alongside sessions. If you'd like to talk about what's coming up for you, I'm here.