Breathing for Calm | Alena Todorov

Alena Todorov

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Breathing
for Calm

Four evidence-based techniques to help settle your nervous system, in the moment and over time.

Designed for use alongside your sessions

Why breathing works

When anxiety arrives, your breath is one of the few things you can consciously control that directly speaks to your nervous system. A deliberate exhale tells your body it is safe. Unlike most coping strategies, breathing requires no equipment, no privacy, and no preparation.

Research shows that breathing practices work best when sessions last at least five minutes, are practised regularly rather than only in crisis moments, and emphasise slower or longer exhales. All four techniques below follow this evidence-based pattern.

The techniques

Cyclic Sighing

Best researched for mood

A Stanford study found this outperformed mindfulness meditation for reducing anxiety and improving mood. It mimics the body's natural physiological sigh. The double inhale fully inflates the lungs, and the long exhale does the calming work.

1
Breathe in slowly through your nose, letting your belly expand first
2
Without exhaling, take a second smaller sip of air through your nose to completely fill your lungs
3
Exhale fully and slowly through your mouth, making the exhale twice as long as the inhale, like a gentle sigh
4
Repeat for 5 minutes

Try this when: you feel anxious, flat, or overwhelmed. Works both as a daily practice and in the moment.

Box Breathing

Good for grounding

A structured, symmetrical rhythm used widely in clinical settings. The equal counts give your mind something concrete to focus on, interrupting anxious thought loops and bringing you back to the present.

Inhale

seconds

Hold

seconds

Exhale

seconds

Hold

seconds

1
Sit comfortably upright with both feet on the floor
2
Follow the four-count pattern above, repeating 4–6 times
3
If 4 feels too long, start with 3, as the equal ratio matters more than the number

Try this when: you need to feel centred before a difficult conversation, meeting, or anxiety-provoking situation.

4-7-8 Breathing

Good for winding down

Drawn from yoga pranayama practice, this technique uses an extended breath-hold and a long exhale to activate the parasympathetic (rest-and-digest) nervous system. The extended exhale is thought to stimulate the vagus nerve.

Inhale

seconds

Hold

seconds

Exhale

seconds

1
Rest your tongue tip just behind your upper front teeth throughout
2
Inhale quietly through your nose for 4, hold for 7, exhale audibly through your mouth for 8, a soft whoosh is normal
3
Complete 4 cycles. Sit or lie down the first time, as some people feel briefly lightheaded

Try this when: you are struggling to sleep, or want to shift out of an activated state at the end of the day.

Diaphragmatic Breathing

Foundation practice

Belly breathing is the foundation of most anxiety work. When anxious, we tend to breathe shallowly into the chest, which keeps the alarm system active. Shifting the breath down into the diaphragm signals safety and, with practice, gradually lowers your baseline.

1
Place one hand on your chest and one on your belly
2
Breathe in through your nose so that your belly hand rises and your chest hand stays relatively still
3
Exhale slowly through pursed lips, feeling the belly fall
4
Aim for 5–7 breaths per minute, roughly 5 seconds in and 5 to 7 seconds out

Try this when: you are new to breathing exercises, or as a daily 5-minute practice to gradually lower your baseline anxiety.

Related resource

Supporting Yourself Through Panic

Breathing alone is not always enough once panic sets in. The full Accept, Breathe, Connect sequence picks up where this guide leaves off. This companion guide covers that sequence in more detail, along with a grounding technique for when things feel like too much.

View Supporting Yourself Through Panic

Getting the most from it

A few things that make a real difference

Practise when calm

The more you practise in ordinary moments, the more accessible the technique becomes when you really need it. Start there, not in crisis.

Consistency over duration

Five minutes daily is more effective than 30 minutes once a week. Even three full cycles counts. Build the habit small.

The exhale is the key

All four techniques share one thing: a longer or more deliberate exhale. If you remember nothing else, make your out-breath longer than your in-breath.

Notice what works for you

Different techniques suit different people and moments. Try each one and notice your response. There is no single right answer.

Quick reference

Technique	Rhythm	Duration	Good for
Cyclic sighing	Inhale + sip, long exhale	5 min	Anxiety, mood, daily use
Box breathing	4-4-4-4	4–6 cycles	Grounding, focus, pre-stressor
4-7-8	4-7-8	4 cycles	Sleep, winding down
Diaphragmatic	~5 in, 5–7 out	5 min	Beginners, daily practice

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This handout is a supplement to your therapy, not a replacement for it. The techniques here are suggestions, as different approaches work for different people. Try each one and notice your own response. Please bring any questions, or anything that comes up for you, to your next session.